Success Coach Kimberley Dawn Talks How to Find Confidence & Clarity
Kimberley Dawn is the ‘KD’ in her company, KD and You Coaching Inc, and a self-proclaimed go getter built to withstand any challenge that may come her way. She is known for being keenly intuitive and she challenges any excuse that she believes will block you from your opportunities.
At a young age, Kimberley has accomplished and experienced so much and she doesn’t show any signs of slowing down. Kimberley took a few moments from her busy schedule to talk with us about how to have self-confidence, success and focus going into 2017.
How did moving to Canada at 18 shape you into the person you are today?
My move to Canada when I was 18 years old was the result of a decade of dreaming and planning. At 8 years old, I was living in London, UK and made a month long visit to Toronto with family.
My now late uncle, a Theology Professor at McMaster University, showed me around the campus and I immediately fell in love. When I look back, I realized that I fell in love with the feeling of 'freedom' - a value I can now discern and treasure.
Canada meant freedom to me, and that has shaped me into a woman who constantly strives to live out from her heart-centered values. In doing so, I feel more at home with myself and surroundings and I am able to be the best version of myself - for myself and others.
What does success look like to you?
I love this question. We're all aware of the socially prevalent versions of success: money, cars, houses. All are necessities to facilitate life, but for me, they are just perks - the cherry on top.
When I gauge success at the end of my life, I don't believe I will be counting my dollar bills or driving the latest and greatest car. I will be searching my memory banks for those intangible and irreplaceable memories where I know I made a positive impact in someone's life.
When I go to sleep every night, I measure a successful day by the significant but fleeting moments where I made a stranger laugh or made someone feel seen and valued. My daily goal is to make people feel that they intrinsically matter through some form of interaction - be it a smile, hug or good deed. Success is knowing that my presence touched others' lives and they feel better for it.
What's the first step to conquering self-confidence?
This is such a tricky question. 'Conquering' implies that self-confidence is something you get over once. The truth is, it's a moment-to-moment battle for even the most confident of people.
I get the sense a lot of people would say that the solution to limited self-confidence is self-love and it probably is, but for me, self-love doesn't come first. We all experience moments of self-doubt, but the difference is confident people possess the skill of ‘recovery’. Confident people are able to recognize when their zest loses its potency, and they are also equipped with the tools to replenish it quicker.
I whole-heartedly believe self-confidence stems from self-awareness and knowledge. The better you know yourself, the better you can feed yourself the nourishment in moments of self-doubt and sabotage. My own first step towards self-confidence was when I took the time and space to learn about myself. Self-love came after, because how can you love what you don't know?
What TED talk would you say motivates you the most to find your passion?
There are so many incredible TED Talks for this topic, but the one that jumps out at me is Shonda Rhimes’ “Year of Yes” talk. I adored this talk because it reminded me about how I found my own passion for coaching.
My journey has moved me through so many steps to get me to automatically say YES. It was an incremental shift, and it started with “why?” Why would I do that? I quickly realized this was a self-limiting question, and I spent half of my time justifying my decisions - what a waste of time!
So I changed my phrase to “why not?” Why not try that? This worked a little better for me, and I started to try more things for the sake of it. As a result, I craved more of it. So I moved to “YES!” YES! is where I live my life now - it's freeing to know that I don't need a Rhime (ha!) or reason to do something. Like Nike, I just do it.
What’s one thing we should do in the last quarter of 2016 to help someone start to focus on their purpose in 2017.
I'm such a fluid person that quarters and year-ends don't mean a whole lot to me. Every day is a chance to focus on your purpose. My best piece of advice is to take the time to know yourself and dream limitlessly – and I do mean limitlessly.
Dream as is everything is possible. In opening the way we think, we can change the way we act and move closer to what we can create. What does your best day look like? Who are you when you are at your best? What do you do? Take stock of the thoughts and experiences that set your soul on fire this year. What were you doing when you smiled ear-to-ear and couldn't stop? Really dig into what it was about it that made you feel ineffably good.
Humans are constantly living out of their deepest wants and desires, and we experience dissonance and sadness because they ignore them. My hope for humanity is that we can align ourselves to ourselves. The less foggy we are about what we want, the easier it is to see our purpose and grasp it with both hands. My want for humanity is to connect genuinely to each other, and I believe connection starts with us.
Want to keep up with Kimberley? Follow her @kdandyou on IG or visit her blog at http://kdandyou.com/blog.