5 Inspiring Lessons I Learned from The Sisters in Power Conference
By Symone Daniels
If you missed the Sisters in Power Conference, you missed a real treat.
The conference was held a few months ago at The Downtown Club in Houston Texas. A panel of influential woman touched on topics from being a girl boss to unifying our black girl magic.
The panel included Life Coach & Empowerment Speaker Wendi J Turner, Executive Producer of Basketball Wives Shaunie O’Neal, Basketball Wives Star and Creator of Bonnet Chronicles Tami Roman, Actress Elise Neal and New York Times Best Selling Author and Reality TV Star Toya Wright.
Have you even been sitting in church and felt like the sermon was just for you? Well that’s exactly how I felt.
Honestly I did not think that I would feel as touched as I did. I got invited to cover the event so I was in work mode. My mindset that night was take many pictures, get a few good quotes and leave. However, that night, I left with a new mindset and some lessons that will carry me through the rest of my life.
Here are 5 of the inspiring lessons I learned from the women at the event:
1. Wendi J Turner on the financial decisions of a marriage: "If you want to cover your marriage, keep your role." "Some things you should withhold from [doing yourself], so your husband feels like he can do it [for you]."
Now, even though I’m young and not married, this hit a nerve with me. I have never let the man be the man. I honestly think I have a control issue when it comes to that. Growing up, I was blessed enough to always get what I wanted. Either my mom will get it for me or I will get it myself. I was independent!
I have an addiction to lipsticks. I remember when I was dating this one guy, I sent him pictures of 5 lipsticks I wanted from MAC. He told me that he couldn't get them for me at the time.
Me being me, I hopped into my car, sped to MAC Houston Galleria and bought all 5 of the colors I wanted. Then, Iput them on and sent him a selfie. He was so upset with me and I did not understand why. The job of a man is to provide. Looking back now, I realize that I took that away from him and made him feel like he couldn't do anything for me.
2. Shaunie O'Neal on convincing others that Basketball Wives should be on TV: "I did not have a problem, to be honest. I came with a cast and all the pieces together, so it was almost like networks were calling me to come."
I really love the fact that Shaunie said this. This speaks to the importance of having your product together so that when an opportunity presents itself, you are ready. Basketball Wives premiered when The House Wives franchise was dominating.
This in itself taught me to remain true to myself. Yes, there are millions of people in the world who do the same thing you do, but that does not mean there isn't space for you to sit at the table.
3. Tami Roman on what else do we have to do to get to the chair: "This chair isn’t shit!"
This was my favorite part of the night. When Tami said that both of my hands went up in the air. Most times I do find myself looking at famous people, thinking, “Her life is so perfect. She doesn't have any issues. She is pretty. She has money. She has great kids. She has a nice Christian democrat husband. It must be nice.”
Tami spoke to the importance of the journey and shared how the trials and tribulations she went through shaped the person she is today. She was very open about having to be on MTV and her post Real World struggles.
4. Elise Neal on coming together as women: "We all our struggling or have issues, but we still should love on each other."
It really is sad how we as women find the smallest reason to dislike each other. I honestly feel like if we came together more, we could do more things. For example, while I was on my way to the conference, I experienced some traffic. Then, I drove around downtown for about an hour trying to locate the building. I ended up missing most of the red carpet press conference, but luckily my girl Ty, from Tyeishia.com, kept me updated and took pictures.
5. Toya Wright on finding her “ahhh haaa” moment: "The fact that I had to ask a person to help me and then for them to turn around and shit on me, made me want to go hard and get my own."
This has got to be one of the worst feelings ever. I feel like if someone has it in their heart to help you, they would not brag about it or make you feel less than later.
I remember when I started SYPPIN WITH SYMONE last year, it was a YouTube channel. On the first episode, I did a story time describing the worst date I have been on since 2016 started.
The boy who took me on the date watched it, then called me and said, “I made you relevant, thanks to me you have a story line.” I’m saved, and each day I get closer to God, but I wanted to curse him out.
I said this to say, when you have something that is yours and you put into it all your time and effort, it really is an amazing feeling and no one can take that from you.
The wonderful advice these phenomenal women offered really struck a chord with me and will serve as a guide as I continue this journey of self-progression into 2017 and onward. It also brought me comfort, hearing that I am not the only woman who has to face these issues.
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