Why You Should Not Compromise Your Beliefs for a Relationship
By Manuela Domingos
In life, we’ve all been compromised in some way.
There’s been times when we’ve been put in a situation where we’re unsure of how to react. This can occur in jobs, friendships, and life interactions. You might feel more fearful of being misunderstood by your boss because you deeply care about your salary and aren’t willing to risk losing it, simply for the sake of standing up for something you strongly believe in.
When it comes to relationships, however, this can be even more of a sticky situation.
It’s very easy to want to compromise an aspect of yourself when you’re wanting to attract the attention of a potential prospect. It’s especially very easy to compromise when you’re in love.
Comprising for the sake of someone else doesn’t necessarily have to be a bad thing. It becomes a problem when the feeling doesn’t feel natural, but rather forced and overwhelming.
You know you’re in a sticky situation when you get the feeling that you probably shouldn’t be doing what you’re doing. Stifling an aspect of yourself, beliefs, morals, or opinions for the sake of someone else only serves as a reason for why that person should not be in your life.
A healthy relationship has no boundaries, no uncertainties. The beauty of two different people coming together should be heightened by each person’s individuality; not one feeling like they should be overly submissive to the other person.
When compromising in a relationship becomes a thing, particularly in the beginning of a relationship, this is a red flag. Recognize the signs in the beginning and actively avoid these situations. It gets harder to think clearly when you become deeply involved with someone and get to know them as a person. It gets even harder when you fall in love with.
It becomes difficult to think without a clouded judgement when you’re under the influence of love. When it comes to that person, you’re willing to do whatever it takes to gain their approval. Remember, you don’t owe anyone an explanation for why you think the way that you do. Most importantly, do not compromise.
Hold on to your individuality, don’t change to how you want them to “see” you. Just be you. The right person will fall in love with you for who you are, without wanting to change your ways to fit their own personal standards.
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