You’re Weight Shaming Your Friend & You Don’t Even Realize It
By Manuela Domingos
Recently, I was having a conversation with a good friend about the double standards of body shaming. She recounted an incident in which a particular person made an offhanded remark about her body type.
“Why is it that people that are much overweight feel that it’s okay to shame women that are much skinnier?”
“That’s true,” I concurred. “Regardless, it should never be the case both ways.”
As a society, I think skinny-shaming is more “acceptable” to some people because certain people covet a certain body type. We are exposed to the much slimmer, thin waist, slightly curvaceous body on magazines, T.V screens, and in the media. When people that fit into this category are shamed, sometimes, we don’t make a big deal about it. We don’t pay attention as much, because often times they’re not the target of offhanded remarks, bullying, and shaming.
Regardless of size, no one should be bullied. Someone that’s considered to be overweight should not be fat-shamed, just as much as someone who is considered to be skinny. There are no exceptions, no “occasions” when such remarks should be acceptable, ever.
Although we aim to abide by a certain standard of acceptance, it is evident in the tension of division that we do not do so. The media is particularly an example of this. It’s not just internet trolls that are the bullies, people with authority, with voice, with a platform are starting to become the sources of such bullying.
Particularly as women, it is important to remember that we are all navigating through a similar path in life. We all want equal opportunities, we all want to be loved and we all want to be accepted.
A place of solidarity should begin with other women. So let us embrace each other instead of bringing each other down. Let us live in unison.
Support women. Uplift women. Empower women.
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