4 Ways to Instantly Change Your Bad Mood
By Manuela Domingos
When in doubt, write it out.
Are you feeling upset, angry, or depressed? Perhaps you’ve prayed about it, which you should. You bought out the Kleenex tissues and those old romance movies and listened to some of your favorite sad songs. And you cried about it. Now you’re walking around feeling down, thinking about that one person. You may be feeling disappointed because the job promotion you thought you’d get just didn’t end up working in your favor. The work out at the gym was good, but perhaps not sufficient enough. You’re up during the wee hours of the morning, and everything is quiet. You’re still.
Perhaps it’s time to bring out that notepad and write.
Write What’s Troubling Your Mind. When you write the words out and face them head on, you recognize that things don’t have to be as complicated as they should. Read your troubles, over and over again. Eventually, what you’re going through will seem minuscule in comparison to everything else. Arrange your thoughts in a way that doesn’t overwhelm you. Remember, it might be frightening at first or intimidating to list out the things that are troubling you. This doesn’t have to be a stressful process, instead it can serve as a visual process of what’s happening.
Write Out a Counter Argument of Your Situation. You may be wondering what that means. Yes, you’re actually going to use your situation or whatever’s troubling you as an assignment. You may have recently lost someone in your life. It doesn’t necessarily have to be a death, it could be a break up, a friendship that has terminated or anything similar, whatever the case may be, write about it. Decide that the emotions that are governing your mind does not have to consume you. Write it out, then write out the opposite of how you ideally would want to feel. Today, I recognized that my friendship with so and so is over. I’m recognizing that I’m hurting and that I am struggling. But I don’t have to feel angry. I don’t have to cry. Instead, I am going to push through. I am going to feel better. I am going to feel blessed.
Re-read Your Counter-Argument Over, and Over Again. Repeating positive things about your situation can breed positive outcomes. Literally, speak positivity into your life. Believe in it. At first, the words may not match exactly how you feel. You’ll feel redundant, as if the things you’re stating don’t really make any sense. But once you repeat them over and over again, you start to believe it. With prayer and repetition, you will feel better about your situation. Repeat your counter-argument every day. As hard as it may be to force yourself to feel better when you’re hurting, remember that you can change. You will feel better. Believe in it.
Throw It Away. If you want to take this visual exercise to a whole different level, actually tear out the piece of paper you wrote on. Ball it up, and throw it away. You can repeat the process all over again, and finally throw it away. I guarantee you that this is the first step in the healing process.
Writing truly does change your attitude towards life.