A Plea to Every Freshman Girl Starting College
By Raven LeDay
First day of college is one of the most stressful days of your life. Moving in is one thing, but making friends and controlling your emotions is another. Your first friend will be your roommate, unless you came to school with BFFs. While this can be great, it usually doesn’t work out by the end of the first semester. Either you outgrow your her because you’ve found new friends or you realize your roommate is a complete mess.
My first friend in college was my roommate, and I realized we were on two different paths. I came from a working class family and, well, she came to college with a silver spoon in her mouth. She introduced me to skipping class and partying 24/7. I had my first taste of Vodka with her, and while it was fun, it was clear she didn’t have goals. After several incidents with failing grades and nights I could not remember, I learned I needed an escape.
My advice is to take advantage of the first day of campus by joining an organization that interests you. There are many advantages of joining a club or organization on campus. For example, you meet people just like you, you are more aware of on-campus activities, and it looks great on the resume you will eventually need to create.
Many come to college to find themselves or to create a new person. But, you must focus on your ultimate goal: graduating with a degree. Boys will definitely be in the girls’ dorms during that first week to prey on vulnerable ladies. I understand, it’s your first time away from Mom and Dad, you finally have that freedom you fought hard for in high school. But just wait, they are not going anywhere, believe me. The first few days on campus, upperclassmen guys are looking for “fresh” contenders unaware of their self-worth. Ladies, I am sparing you the heart break that comes after two weeks of ignored phone calls and text messages once you give yourself to him. Baby girl, they can wait get your education.
We are a generation like no other. We witnessed the first elected black president, the rise of social media, and the increase of girl bosses. It’s no time like the present to start working on your future. Set short-term and long-term goals for the new school year. Stay focused on the prize and keep the faith.
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