Do You and Your Boyfriend Have a Spiritual Connection?

By Manuela Domingos




Not too long ago I was having a conversation with a friend of mine about the key element in sustaining a relationship. Interestingly enough, what she said made a lot of sense in the grand scheme of things. I thought about the people I knew around me, and the reason why a lot of their relationships ended unsuccessfully. One constant factor seemed prevalent: the majority of these relationships seemingly put themselves forefront, before spirituality.

Spirituality seems like such a vague term almost. What does it truly mean? A definition on google coins the term:

Spirituality is a broad concept with room for many perspectives. In general, it includes a sense of connection to something bigger than ourselves, and it typically involves a search for meaning in life. As such, it is a universal human experience—something that touches us all.”

As someone navigating through her early twenties, I can speak from experience that this period of time in my life is probably one of the most crucial times in terms of growth, not only physically, but emotionally and mentally as well. Our society puts too much emphasis on certain wants and needs in relationships, often times failing to pinpoint an aspect of humanity that exceeds something that is greater than ourselves: our need for the divine. This is purely all matter of perspective and individual beliefs. Nevertheless, having a strong spiritual connection to something greater than what is on earth provides a sense of security that is inexplicably irrevocable and long lasting.

Recently, my best friend entered a healthy, stable relationship. This time last year she was in a relationship in which she felt stuck and confused. The arguing was constant, the negativity repetitive, and both parties were at times selfish. Something was missing, but it wasn’t apparent to her at the time. Her recent relationship is far different from the last. Her and her boyfriend go to church together, meditate together, and read scripture during their spare time. It’s been a rejuvenating experience for both of them. My best friend is in a wonderful place that once seemed impossible.

When I asked her what was different this time, she said: “We’re growing spiritually together, and that’s the most important thing that can happen at this time. Be with someone that you can grow together.”

I plan to take her advice, and I wish other people would as well. As a culture, we’re so caught up in “relationship goals,” but what goals are we really aiming to acquire that fulfills stable, long lasting relationships?

As a culture, we’re so caught up in “relationship goals,” but what goals are we really aiming to acquire that fulfills stable, long lasting relationships?

It’s time we put more emphasis on the spiritual in our relationships.