Dear Bullies: Stop Being Insecure
By Isabella Rolz
Last month, I shared an intimate article about my encounter with bullying and its repercussions. I have to confess I wasn’t sure if I wanted to share my article on my social media accounts, especially because it thoroughly described two years of my college experience where I was completely depressed…
However, one Wednesday afternoon my younger brother, who’s only eleven and a 5th grader, came back from school crying and pretty disappointed. Of course I wanted to figure out what had happened, so I started investigating. Days later, I found out that he was being harassed by a group of boys who he called “his best friends.” They repeatedly accused him of being fat, stupid and a complete loser. The worst part is that when he was confessing how these young kids were treating him, he kept on insisting they were right about calling him fat, because he was. “They’re right mommy, I am fat and I suck at sports,” he said. My mom looked at me immediately, but she couldn’t handle the situation and left the room to call my dad.
I sat down next to my brother and tried to explain that these kids were a harsh consequence of a repressive society, where diversity and originality were unknown to ignorant eyes. I also told him that the kids were tremendously insecure, and that they just want to fit into this degenerated society.
Of course he didn’t understand, he’s only eleven! So I told him: “Promise me something, be faithful to yourself, don’t try to change who you are for these kids; don’t try to fit in like them, nobody has to tell you who you are, but yourself!”
After this occurrence, I no longer doubted to share my bullying article, because I felt that by sharing a little piece of me, I might inspire other people who were dealing with a similar issue. On the other hand, my brother has improved and is definitely in the process of understanding that from insecurity, hatred emerges, and that bullying stems from insecurities.
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