Why You Should Live Life Without Envy
By Manuela Domingos
“Comparison is the thief of joy.”
I read this quote one night while lying on my bed in the dark, squinting at the bright light on my phone. Like many people who ponder about the universe during odd hours, I wanted a quote to go along with my current state of mind.
Rather, I stumbled upon this quote out of chance. To me, it clicked. I needed no further explanation of what it meant. It made sense.
We live in a society where stalking on social media has become totally appropriate, and validating one’s self-worth through likes has subconsciously become the norm. People post the happy moments. Nobody will ever post a crying selfie (Although, I had a friend who once did. Props to her).
In life, we see long lost friends climbing up the social ladder and the career ladder. Success seems to be spewing on all corners of the universe, upon everybody else but yourself. You wonder what’s wrong with you, why you can’t have it “together” for once. Then you start to obsess, feel jealous, and ultimately dive into envy.
We may have felt that way at some point in our lives. I can’t speak for everyone else, but I know I have felt that way before. It’s only part of being human.
But I’ve come to realize that every single person on earth was called here for a unique life, and to envy that unique life would be devaluing my own unique story.
Envy can suck every ounce of happiness you possess and leave you feeling unwanted, weak, and unimportant. To me, it seems not worth it.
So I try to make the best of what I’ve got and listen to my own calling in life. Although I don’t have it all together, I believe the first step in getting there is distinguishing the toxic emotions in my life that are capable of breaking me, and allowing the more positive to radiate.
My goal in life is to love others selflessly and, in return, hope others will love me the same. If we make an effort to allow that to happen, then maybe we would create something beautiful.
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