22 & Single, Just The Way I Like It.
By Isabella Rolz
I am 22. I am a soon-to-be college graduate. I am a woman learning to love herself more every day. And, I am single. Yes, I am single, and want to remain this way for awhile because my first priority is me. I want to put myself first right now, and when it's time to settle down and share my achievements and life-goals with someone else, I will.
Growing up, I witnessed too many young people get too stressed out with dating. Many of my girlfriends felt the need to be with a boy in order for them to accept themselves. However, I noticed that there was always a common denominator that ended up breaking their fairy-tale relationships: excessive dependency.
These young women depended too much on their partners. Worst of all, I noticed that once their relationships ended, they seemed to feel as though their dreams ended as well. They never separated their personal life from their romantic life. Thus, after a break-up occurred, they always questioned, “Now, what I’m supposed to do?”
I have nothing against dating in your early twenties. If it’s possible to achieve a fulfilling relationship where both individuals are seeking personal growth, AWESOME!
However, a relationship where one individual is giving more than their partner is an unstable one.
I would prefer not to partake in a relationship of that kind, I’d rather remain single and keep finding myself and reaching my personal goals. Through writing, I’ve learned so much about who I am and what I expect in life. I plan to move to a big city next year and get a full-time job. I also want to travel for a while and experience different cultures and cities.
And for this reason, the only relationship I’ll be in is with myself: a 22-year-old woman with big dreams and expectations, looking to learn from the world she lives in and document everything through her writing.