How Heartbreak Helped Me Discover My Passion
By Isabella Rolz
I’m a writer, and love every part of it. Most people who know me, are aware that in my spare time I grab a cup of coffee and sit down to write for hours. It’s more than just a passion, it’s a form of therapy. Anytime someone asks me how I started writing, I always respond by saying it was two years ago when I started publishing for a travel blog. But this is incorrect, it happened in awake of another occurrence.
When I was 20-years-old, I met this guy. We started as friends really good friends, hung out almost every day and most importantly had friends in common, so it was nice to go out as a group. After a few weeks we started dating. I was pretty naïve, so everything in my world was perfect, being in love made me unaware of his flaws. And by his flaws, I am not referring to his physical flaws, but his behavior and attitude towards certain things.
I was advised by my closest friends to leave him, but when I asked why, they just responded “he’s just not the right guy for you.” It wasn’t enough. I needed a better explanation, and when they tried to give it to me, their answers were not convincing at all. Weeks after, I found out he was messaging one of my really good friends, and hitting on her through texts.
I was completely torn apart, heartbroken and disappointed. I thanked my friends for their advice, and told myself I would never again fall for someone like that. But forgetting about him was the hardest part, especially because he was my first love and we used to be really good friends. Coping with the heartbreak was a rough period of time.
But then one afternoon I discovered that if I turned those feelings into sentences, I could come up with a very dramatic essay. And it was on this day that I discovered my passion for writing. Somehow writing helped me cope with the heartbreak, because it worked as a therapy. I wrote and wrote for days, which turned into weeks. I finally made the decision to minor in journalism, because my passion for writing kept on growing.
And from that heartbreak, I found my next love: writing!