Remove The Weeds In Your Life So You Can Grow
By Bri’Ann Stephens
Bad relationships are like weeds in a flower bed, you don’t really notice them until the damage has already begun. Weeds are generally plants that have absolutely no redeeming value as far as nutrition is concerned. They tend to compete with flowers for nutrients and space. Similar to flowers, we allow bad people, who bring no real value, to enter into our lives; bad people who come to compete with us for space in our own lives—our flower bed! The worst part about it is, many times it either goes unnoticed, or we allow it. Whatever the case may be, it can become damaging to our mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual health.
How to Identify Weeds:
The biggest red flag to look for when trying to figure out if a person is bad for you is in the things that they do and say. Does their actions backup their words? If someone is constantly going back on their word or saying things they have no real intentions on backing up, most likely they are not good for you.
What does this person encourage you to do? People who convince and pressure you into doing things you know are not right for you are people you should not spend time with. If you have people in your life who constantly feed you broken promises or encourage you to go against your moral beliefs, they, my friend, are weeds.
How to Get Rid of Weeds:
Depending on the length, there are different ways to go about ending a bad relationship. The most common and effective way to end a bad relationship is through complete isolation from this person. You have to completely rid yourself of anything that reminds you of them. You also have to rid yourself of any bad habits that person may have instilled in you.
How to Heal After Being Damaged by the Weeds:
Get to a quiet place—a place of isolation, meditate and discover the things you no longer want to harbor, and work towards a better you. Though it may be hard, overcoming the damage done by weeds, ultimately requires that become a new you—a better stronger you. Strip yourself of everything that has held you back in the past and start all over from scratch. Imagine the woman you want to be, work towards becoming her and leave bad people in the past!
Flowers are meant to grow, if they are not growing then they are dead. I encourage you not to go through life dead. Sometimes we think we can fix, change, and mold people and that is not true. True change only happens through an encounter with God. Control what you can, which is yourself, identify the problem, get rid of the problem, and heal.