It’s Not You, He’s Just Intimated
By Isabella Rolz
Of course I am not worried about intimidating men. The type of man who will be intimidated by me is exactly the type of man I have no interest in. – Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie.
One of my good friends showed this quote to me a couple of days ago, and since I can’t stop thinking about it. Why is it, that successful and minded women intimidate certain men? As if a woman’s duty in terms of success is to be inferior to men. As if women are supposed to do nothing. And, as if when we succeed, it is a rare act.
There is nothing more empowering, than an independent, mature, happy woman, with a great job, jaw-dropping education and an aspiring future, who’s interested in travelling the world and learning about different cultures and societies. This is exactly, how a successful woman looks to me. Most importantly, these are the women who shouldn't get worried about intimidating men.
First of all, I want to make it clear that I’m not speaking about all the male population. I am just speaking for those boys, who don’t know how to deal with a woman who’s not afraid to position herself in situations that require high-standards to achieve.
These men are often intimidated by the fact that successful ladies can do everything for themselves. Women like this, have no interest on depending on someone, but rather find their ways to make everything work without dependency.
And yes ladies, a woman like you SHOULD NEVER look for someone, or in certain cases stay with someone, who's intimidated by your success and independence. On the contrary, as the quote suggests, don't worry about intimidating those particular men, forget about them. For it is those very men who still need to overcome their own insecurities and weak mentality.
Look for a man, who’s on or above the same level as you: socially, intellectually, spiritually and academically. Don't settle for a guy whose ambitions and desires aren’t equally as profound as yours.
First and foremost, don't settle for a male whose manhood gets threatened by your success.