How to Love Thyself and Know Thy Worth


By Nastashia Archie  

As a 27-year-old black female, I know personally how hard it is living inside your own mind while trying to keep up with the trends and times.

To be desirable but not too forward; educated yet not too smart. There is so much pressure on women to be everything and nothing – only when it’s convenient for the rest of the world. So when do we make time to consider ourselves?

Well, let me be the first to tell you there is never a wrong time to love yourself, and waiting for society to tell you it’s okay will leave you miserable and empty.

You must consider yourself first and the rest of the world second – or never. Do what you feel, and love what you do.

We all deal with personal insecurities. Growth is about trading in your self-conscious mindset for the mentality that love for others only comes through loving yourself first. Embrace your flaws and scars to better understand the soul that dwells underneath. Looks will grow old and dull, but your soul will never fade. 

Prayer and meditation are both good ways to reveal your purpose. Escaping the world’s expectations is one of the best things you can do for yourself mentally, spiritually and emotionally. 

Be careful of the company you keep. Most do not understand they've been blinded to their purpose because of the negative energy they keep around them. Surround yourself with positive souls that only encourage your elevation. "If your friends don't support you, then you need some new friends."

Let Go!

Let go of fake friends and convenient relationships that are never balanced. Those are the kind of relationships that leave you with a void in your heart that they will never come back to fill.

Acknowledge your own self-worth. Once you do, you will find yourself removing the "energy vampires" from your life, without the fear of missing the comfort zone of their presence. 


Keep up with Nastashia Archie by visiting her website, The Garden Flower