Not too long ago I was having a conversation with a friend of mine about the key element in sustaining a relationship. Interestingly enough, what she said made a lot of sense in the grand scheme of things. I thought about the people I knew around me, and the reason why a lot of their relationships ended unsuccessfully. One constant factor seemed prevalent: the majority of these relationships seemingly put themselves forefront, before spirituality.
I believe we’ve all had at least one person in our life who has hurt us so much that we wanted to pray fire and brimstone down upon them and their entire household. You know the feeling. The hurt runs deep. It’s only when you slowly take the knife out of your wounded back and fragile heart that you begin to realize the depth of the pain you feel.
It’s super tempting to compare your journey to others. Watching others live their lives and achieve their dreams will never be an effective means of finding the motivation to do so in your own life. Understand that your story is your own. Celebrate the success of others while celebrating the wins in your life, no matter how small they may seem.
Marriage is tough. Our nation’s divorce rate is proof. But the bible makes it clear that marriage is not impossible and it is not meant to result in a life of headache and heartache. A relationship should be centered around trust, compassion, and love. If you are a Christian, chances are you value your relationship with Christ and like many of us, you desire a healthy and loving marriage.
As people, we are so quick to point fingers and judge new believers. We expect God to snap his fingers, and immediately release us from the flawed, sinful nature of our past and turn us into the cookie cut perfect version of ourselves. As much as we’d like to believe that this is true, it’s not.
Passion fills us. Conviction pierces our hearts. We are confident in this decision. We raise our hand. We recite a prayer. We are saved. It’s all going to be different now. The way we think. The way we speak. Our desires. Our perspective. Stress is no match for salvation. Temptation has got nothing on a soul dedicated to Christ. We are a new creation. Old things have passed away.
Change is one of the most difficult things we go through as people and especially as women. The funny thing about change is it's inevitable. No matter who you are or what stage of your life you're in, it's just that— a stage, and it's bound to change.
Have you ever felt like you’ve just been going through the motions of life? With anything you do, even something you really love, it feels like there’s just no passion, no desire or spark for it anymore?
How many times have you heard the saying, "Business is business and your personal life is your personal life and the two can't mix" or "it's not personal. It's strictly business?" If you have your own business or plan to start your own business, I’m sure you've heard one of these sayings at least once. I am here to tell you, that your business life and your personal life are one in the same.
Every once in a while you meet someone that shifts your perspective ever so slightly, allowing you to see a part of your world never seen before. This happened when I met someone about a year ago, in an unlikely place, at an unlikely time.
Stress is an inevitable part of life, still we so desperately try to avoid it. The most common advice when dealing with stress is simply, "do not stress" and I know first hand it is much easier said than done. Let us first get a clear understanding of the meaning of stress.
As someone in her early 20s navigating through a challenging time, I want to tell you that I can relate to any struggle you may be facing during this critical period of your life. I also want to tell you that I understand how hard it may be to constantly battle the shackles of temptation, how challenging it can be to keep up with your spiritual food, and how difficult it may be to love unconditionally in a world that seems to become progressively evil and increasingly harder to love.
When compromising in a relationship becomes a thing, particularly in the beginning of a relationship, this is a red flag. Recognize the signs in the beginning and actively avoid these situations. It gets harder to think clearly when you become deeply involved with someone and get to know them as a person. It gets even harder when you fall in love with.
Let me begin by saying I love a good Ted talk. If it weren’t for this organization that shares dynamic, instrumental and influential ideas I wouldn’t have access to people like Isaac Lidsky amongst many other great thinkers.
Just this time last year I was in an unhealthy relationship with a woman I planned to be with for the rest of my life. So how did I end up here? The answer is simple. Faith. But before I talk about where I am now, I want to give you all a little knowledge about my past life.
Life as a woman can be quite the challenge sometimes.
Without a doubt, we must have a good career. We must be good and considerate friends. To our family, we must be loving sisters and daughters. Don’t forget, we are expected to be married and we are expected to start a family. God forbid, we haven’t done both by 30. If we haven’t the world looks at us with curious eyes and if we have, then we must keep our house clean and keep our family fed. And of course, we must love and care for our significant others and be a supportive backbone. But that’s not it, the list goes on and on.
So to put it into perspective, let’s say there is a King & a Queen of an empire. They have children and because of their status and hierarchy, their children will become heirs oneday receiving all of the King & Queen’s inheritance when the time permits.
After an amazing vacation overseas, I came back to face the responsibilities of adulthood. Truly, I don’t really have to work right now, but I want the experience. I want to save money to go on vacation by the end of the year, and I don’t want to bother my parents for money.
Me, myself, and I made an executive decision. We felt it best we not continue with God as we had been. We would not deny his existence, we would not slander his name, nor would we sin against him. We would be cordial and amicable.
I read this quote one night while lying on my bed in the dark, squinting at the bright light on my phone. Like many people who ponder about the universe during odd hours, I wanted a quote to go along with my current state of mind.
Instead of love we have fear. Instead of peace we have violence. Instead of acceptance we often receive brutal unwarranted judgement. I’ve learned in my span of life, thus far, that there are many things we cannot change.